As many of you know, I not only will be speaking at, but am also on the Advisory Board of the amazing, first ever Start Over Smart Divorce Expo taking place in New York City on March 31 “ April 1! If you haven’t already bought your tickets, do it now¦I would love to meet you in person!
On Saturday I will be speaking with my mother on The Ripple Effect of Divorce: How My Divorce Affected Those Who Love Me Most and the Lessons I Learned. She and I will explore the impact of those five little words, I am getting a divorce not only on our relationship, but also on my caring circle of friends and family as well. Together we will share stories of our personal journey while at the same time presenting our secrets to strengthening these relationships through divorce. This is the perfect workshop for any of you who have a parent, sister, or best friend who loves you and is doing their best to support you¦even if it doesn’t feel that way. I hope you will grab them and join us for a fun and special workshop!
On Sunday I will be participating on a fantastic panel, The Real Deal on Divorce. I will be joined by two of my amazing friends, Nicole Baras Feuer (co-founder of the Start Over Smart Expo) and Nancy Levin (author and Hay House Event Producer). The panel will be moderated by Stacy Morrison, Editor-in-Chief of Blogher.com and former Editor of Redbook Magazine. We are going to talk about the things no one ever talks about when it comes to divorce!! Woohoo!!!
As the four of us began to talk about our panel and the juicy things we wanted to talk about, we tossed around, sex, sensuality, co-parenting surprises, eating for one and all kinds of other things that we have all faced on our own personal journeys.
Our emails began flying and Stacy shared with us an article that she had written for the New York Times about an unexpected post-divorce situation. Click here to read the article.
It is a great article, but I wasn’t prepared for how I would feel reading it.
As I finished reading it, I felt a strange mixture of happiness for her¦and jealousy. Yes, you heard me right, jealousy!
I am not a jealous person, in fact I am an advocate for peaceful solutions when it comes to divorce¦all four of us are. But I realized that I wished that I could exchange one of my own challenges for the one she talks about in the article.
She and her Ex-husband are collaboratively and peacefully co-parenting their son and although uncomfortable at times, they are leaving the door open to redefining their co-parenting relationship and navigating the new lives they are each creating. Unfortunately, my Ex-husband and I are not. It was once that way for us, but new lives, new loves and a variety of other circumstances have caused our initial post-divorce relationship to deteriorate. It is not what I want and I am sad about it.
Three of the four us on the panel have children, and while we all started out with the same intention and desire to successfully and collaboratively co-parent our children, we each have faced unique challenges as we move along our journey.
I shared my reaction to the article with the group, which opened up the door for us to explore even further how though so much can seem the same; our experiences are in fact different on so many levels. And none of us anticipated the unexpected consequences that our divorces would present. It felt wonderful and liberating to share with each other just how much we didn’t know about what this divorce journey would be like and give each other support we need, and deserve.
I also know that we are not alone, and that each of you has a unique journey along which you are traveling.
So, I am even more excited today about being a part of this panel¦it is going to be juicy, fun and fabulous! I really hope you will find your way to NYC and join us then!!