No one knows.
No one knows that you are hurting. That you are experiencing sadness, confusion and overwhelm.
You get up, make breakfast, tend to your kids and get out the door. You put a smile on your face even when you don’t really feel like it.
When you are finally alone, an overwhelming feeling of fear and loneliness comes over you; and then a song comes on the radio that touches a nerve and the tears begin to flow.
You aren’t even sure why you are crying. Life is not so bad…but it isn’t what you always thought it would be.
Maybe your marriage or relationship is not working out the way you want. You want it to be passionate, fun, sexy and sensual…you want to feel the deep connection you desire; you are just not willing to settle anymore.
Maybe you just feel empty. You have forgotten what makes you giggle…what makes your heart sing. Life has become a habit, lacking excitement, spontaneity and adventure. You wonder what it would be like if….
You wonder why it has to be so hard.
But no one knows.
You keep your suffering to yourself.
Women like you are not supposed to be unhappy, to struggle and to need more. Women like you are supposed to figure it out, to be happy with your life, to make it good for everyone else.
It is a silent agony.
You can’t possibly let your friends and family know…after all, what would they say? What would they think?
You simply can’t say it out loud because if you do, it would make it real. It would mean that you had to do something about it, and the thought of doing something about it scares the shit out of you.
Actually, you don’t even know what would make you feel better. Or, you know what you need to do, but if you take action it will mean that your life will change forever.
The question is, who told you that you had to struggle alone?
What you probably don’t know is that you are not alone. You are among so many women who suffer in silence.
I know how hard you work to keep your game face on and show that world just how strong, capable, and competent you are. But you don’t have to.
Being scared and vulnerable is part of the journey…the journey towards what’s next, even when you have no idea what next looks like. Being scared and vulnerable is strong, sexy and feminine.
It is time for you to honor your desires…all kinds of juicy desires. Your inner good girl, inner wild child and inner badass all want to come out and play; after all, they are best of friends.
All you need is the space, support and courage to explore the space between what was and is, and what will be.
This is your space. I am here for you.