I don’t know about you but when I turn the page on the calendar to August, I immediately begin to feel a little bit stressed, anxious, overwhelmed and as if my time is running out.
I embrace the slower pace of summer and so that little word, August, implies that summer is nearing its end that the fall is coming. And, while I love the fall and the opportunity to start anew, it also brings with it:
Homework, homework, homework
After school activities and the constant shuttling of kids
Decrease in free time and increase in scheduling conflicts
Routines and schedules
The list goes on and on.
In my heart I know the fall is fabulous and that I have direction and focus that I want to maintain, but my emotions and my brain are telling me, oh no¦here comes the chaos!
So, before I go to that place of overwhelm, I have to remove all of the distractions in my head so that I can see what I already know.
Have you ever felt this way?
Managing these many changing emotions can be a challenge if you do not have the tools and resources that will be necessary.
Here are a few tips for seeing what you already know.
With all of the distractions that life throws at us, it is sometimes difficult to see the forest through the trees. The greatest gift you can give yourself is the gift of clarity. While you may feel as if you don’t know what you want, the answers are already within you. You simply need to tap into your inner guidance system (IGS). Take time to work with a coach or in a personal development program to define your vision and create a path on which you can focus your time, energy and attention.
2. Slow Down
During times of transition, and of course, given that we are mothers, professionals, sisters, daughters… with an extraordinary amount of responsibility, it is easy for the pace of life to speed out of control. When you find that you are not able to see things clearly, it is your inner guidance system telling you that it is time to slow down. When your IGS speaks, you MUST listen. Take time to let go of those commitments and obligations that are not critical and free up both time and space in your life to reflect and move toward clarity.
3. Emotions vs. Reality
Often it is challenging to distinguish between your emotions and the reality of your situation. The good news is that YOU have control over your emotions. Contrary to popular belief, with professional support and guidance, you can choose the emotions that you want to feel and change them at any given moment. It may not feel that way, but this is a proven fact. When you are able to manage your emotions, you will be able to explore the reality of your experience and exercise the power of CHOICE as you move forward.
4. Rewrite Your Story
Aaahhh, our story. Every experience has both the facts of the experience and the story of the experience. When going through a separation or divorce, it is easy to embellish and embrace the story that we want to tell, rather than understand and deal with the facts and reality of the experience. As you are able to manage your emotions and gain clarity around your situation and experience, you can then rewrite your story to one that is empowering and that serves you. If you hold on to a story that is disempowering, limiting and victimized, you will be paralyzed from moving forward along your journey. The facts remain the same, but YOU can create a story that propels you towards designing your new and extraordinary life.
It is my pleasure and a blessing to serve you and to support you to begin your own journey!