I hear it over and over again from women…and actually men as well, that before their divorce actually happened, they had not had sex for months and in many cases years!
Having been there myself, I am aware of what happens to sex once a long term relationship and marriage begins to deteriorate. And, that this deterioration can take many months and often years.
While a marriage deteriorates, so does trust, honesty and desire…all leading to an incredible decrease in intimacy, and therefore sex as well.
In our desire to bring sex back to our lives, we sometimes find inappropriate ways to engage in it. Sex can be used in all kinds of ways to get through this most difficult time:
It is common for both men and women to go “crazy” during separation and/or divorce and want to “find their sexual mojo” and have a great time…after all, don’t we all deserve it?
Yes, we all deserve a healthy and fantastic intimate and sexual relationship, but;
No, sex does not always provide us with what we THINK it does and can sometimes backfire on us.
Sex does NOT:
I believe, and I recognize that many of you will disagree with me, that sex is an important part of life and if viewed in the right way, can have a healthy place in this divorce transition.
For example, wanting and needing to share a physical sexual encounter with someone does not necessarily mean that you want or are ready for a new relationship.
It is possible to want a casual, yet sexual, dating relationship as you move forward in your journey and begin to regroup and rebuild the foundation of your life.
What this does mean, however, is that you have to gain clarity about what SEX means for you, you must exercise discretion, and you must take precautions for your health and safety.
Using sex for the wrong reasons during this time will ultimately lead to further sadness, confusion, anxiety, and overwhelm and can complicate your divorce, your decision making and your commitment to your children.
I strongly suggest that you DO NOT:
Exploring your sensuality, rediscovering your sexuality and engaging in new sexual relationships is all part of the journey of divorce.
The most valuable advice I can give to you is:
This is a time for you to regroup, renew and reinvent yourself in all areas of your life. Sex is no different. Enjoy it! Explore it! Indulge in it!
Just, do it wisely, responsibly and with integrity!
I am here to support you and to help you move forward. And you are here for each other. Together we can create the life you WANT and DESERVE!
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