You try to avoid it, often at ridiculous extremes. You make excuses, deny it, or even launch into business hyper drive to plow through it, but it is still there, relentlessly nagging at you in subtle and often not so subtle ways.
Somewhere along the way our lives got full to capacity with stuff; things, people, habits, commitments…
At one point or another they each made sense, they each make us feel good. But as the years have gone on in our lives; our real, unplanned, unanticipated, complex and overextended lives, we have chosen and been forced to choose to let go of some of this stuff, as they all don’t feel quite as good anymore.
Letting go sucks; even more so when someone or something lets us go.
It hurts because there is always loss.
It is frightening.
It is overwhelming
It is sad and it is lonely.
Loneliness is not something that I feel very often, but I have learned over the years that feeling lonely always comes with letting go; but that it is also a temporary state and one that reliably guides me to a deeper, more authentic and honest way of being.
Letting go is a lonely process, because the decision to let go must come from within. You are the only one who can decide what stays and what goes in your life.
No one can convince you to quit your job.
No one can tell you when it is time to end a relationship.
No one can make the decision to end a commitment or step away from an activity that no longer serves you.
The choice is yours and yours alone. You are forced to trust yourself, your choices and the courage and strength that I know you have within you.
As you prepare to and begin the process of releasing things that no longer feel good, you may feel like you are free falling; like you are dropping with nothing to cushion your fall.
But even if you fall…or you don’t manage to land on your feet, you will always stand upright again. You are strong, resilient, and courageous beyond measure.
You will temporarily feel the emptiness of the space left behind by what was, but in time you will fill it with things that make you feel alive. You may not see it yet, but just because you can’t see it, doesn’t mean it isn’t there.