Here we are again. Thanksgiving week.
The time that marks the beginning of the holiday season and all that comes with it:
· Family gatherings
· Menus and entertaining
· Holiday budgeting
· Familiar holiday and family rituals and celebrations
And for those of us who are separated, divorcing or moving forward after divorce, this can also include:
· financial anxiety
· stressful custody arrangement negotiations
· family obligations and pressures
· feelings of loneliness
· feelings of loss and sadness
So, at a time when we are supposed to be celebrating Thankfulness and embracing the joy of the holiday season, what happens when we don’t really feel it?
What do we do when we don’t feel grateful, joyful or full of the holiday spirit and good cheer?
The real deal of divorce is that these feelings come and go at any given time. It could be a certain song that you hear, a ritual that you once observed, or the happy holiday craziness that is going on right now and in a split second you find yourself thinking how the hell did I get here?
Do you ever feel this way?
I know that as much as I love the spirit of the holidays, there is always a small piece of me that wants to wallow in the loss of what was, what could have been and where I should be at this stage of my life. And there is inevitably a little gremlin on my shoulder that wants to relentlessly whisper in my ear¦.what have YOU got to be thankful for?
What both you and I have to be grateful for are the following:
· the FREEDOM to CHOOSE to be, do and create anything we want in our life
· the ABILITY to CREATE the kind of relationships with our family, friends, children and partner that we dream of
· the KNOWLEDGE that this is journey¦and that it is only the beginning of what will be
· the POWER to CONTROL how we feel, what we say and how we act¦.always
· the GIFT of GIVING¦our love, our talents and our energy to making this world a better place
When you are experiencing anxiety at how you are going to manage the cost of the holidays, experiencing frustration with your family or feeling isolated and alone when the entire world has someone to love (which of course you know is complete bullshit and utterly untrue), centering yourself around what you truly can be grateful for will give you just what you need to find the joy of the holiday season.
"Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow."
A wonderful resource for you to use to find your Attitude of Gratitude is Sarah Ban Breathnach’s Simple Abundance which you can find at http://www.simpleabundance.com.
I am grateful for YOU¦for knowing you, connecting to you and having you a part of my amazing circle of women!