I must have a “thing” for letters because they are always at the tip of my tongue…

The D Spot, I talked about the “I” word (Infidelity) a few weeks back and this week I would like address the “E” and the “V” words.

Despite Eve Ensler creating a huge buzz around her own “V” word with the Vagina Monologues, I have my very own “V” word.

These two words are Excuse and Victim. Two words that I truly don’t welcome into my life and haven’t for many years!

Most people use excuses on a daily basis to explain or defend their actions, choices and decisions. Usually they aren’t even aware that they are doing it.

Things like:

  • I had no choice…
  • I don’t have time…
  • I don’t have money…
  • I can’t until my kids get older…
  • It will be too hard …

Where in your life do you use excuses?

Over time this will stop you from ever getting anything that you want and will leave you feeling and acting like a victim.

People that act like victims do not take responsibility for their actions, words, behaviors or life choices. It is the single most self destructive attitude than you can have!

So, check in with yourself….and be honest! Once you take responsibility for the choices and decisions you make, your life will change in ways you can’t even imagine. You don’t believe me? Just try it!

Ability is what you are capable of doing.
Motivation determines what you do.
Attitude determines how well you do it.



There could never be a truer saying!
Ability, motivation and attitude…three things that are completely within each and every one of us and limited to our choice of how to use them!
All of my clients have the ability.
Most of my clients have the motivation.
What separates the women who move forward in creating the life they want full of joy, abundance and prosperity….create the attitude that allows them to achieve all that they want.

Without Excuses, Without Being a Victim.

This week I encourage you to take the 7 Day “E” and “V” Challenge!

The 7 Day “E” and “V” Challenge is designed to eliminate Excuses and being a Victim from you life….forever!

For this entire week, I challenge you to do the following:

  1. Be Real!    Everyday, write down the excuses that you use to prevent you from making the choices and decisions that you REALLY want!
  2. Think before your speak!  Everyday, write down the comments, phrases and words that you say that portray or describe you, your struggles or your situation as if you are a victim.
  3. Be Honest with yourself!  Write in a journal all of the areas that you don’t take responsibility for in your life.  In the areas of your life that you struggle most, write down all of the different possibilities that exist that you have to choose from….regardless of whether you would or would not choose them!
  4. Repeat after me!  Tell yourself every morning that “I have the right to make all choices and decisions today that are in my own best interest” and “I will take full responsibility for the outcomes and consequences of these decisions”.
  5. So, how does it feel?  At the end of the week, examine the 7 days and write how you feel.

At the end of this week, you should have a better understanding of where you act like a victim and how powerful your choices and decisions are in creating the life that you want.

If you are not seeing a difference at the end of the week, please let me know and you will receive a complimentary session with me to find out what is holding you back from getting what you want and deserve!

All that you need to get everything that you have ever imagined and deserve is within you.  Knowing how to get at it is the key!

What are you waiting for, go out and get it!